*This is a Special Post!*
Written by our generous guest blogger: Theresa C. (photo below):
I, like many of you, are at that age when things are uncertain and even when we have goals and desires and inspirations, we find ourselves asking “how is this plausible?” We find ourselves being limited by a force that we can’t even see, though it is tangible.We see time through watching the sun rise and set, through seeing the numbers on a clock move throughout the day, and seeing our bodies change and age. The truth is, time for many of us, truly dictates what we think we can and can’t do. We are constantly told to be worried about time; for example, when we should and shouldn’t be eating. We are told that there is certain time when we should be children, students, spouses, parents, workers, friends, Catholics, men, women, what have you, there is supposedly a time for us to be these things.
Now don’t get me wrong, I do think that is important to aware of time so that you can be realistic and have at least some order in your life. It really wouldn’t be appropriate if we let 5 year olds drive, or let 95 year olds take children’s art classes. It also wouldn’t be appropriate to show up 3 months late to an event or arrive 3 months early. These things are just vague examples of how, yes, time is very important, but that does not mean we need it to dictate our lives.
In this day and age, we are constantly worried about when is the right time to make career choices, when is the right time to meet someone, when is it the right time to start training for that marathon? Here’s the thing…
THERE TRULY IS NO RIGHT TIME.
We just need to be aware and acknowledge that, yes, time is happening. Always. It helps us measure things, like seasons and days and age. These things, especially age, are inevitable and we have to learn how to cope with that. We have to become comfortable with age and its role in our lives. We are going to get older. We are going to change. Those two things do not define or limit us. We are perpetually curious beings that always strive to learn something new, explore foreign spaces, try untasted foods, and feel different sensations. We are in a constant state of change and we are constantly adapting. This is a good thing. This makes us more versatile and experienced people. With these changes come different goals and different desires, which is totally natural and completely normal; too often than not, we let let age and time stand in our way of accomplishing or experiencing something great. We say to ourselves, “I’m too young for _____” or “I’m too old for _____” or “I just really don’t have time for ____”. Don’t lie, we’ve all been there. We’ve all done this.
And that is okay.
I want to challenge you to take this time to say, “It’s okay. I’ve done this.”. Now, I want you to take that mindset, and completely throw it out the door. Get rid of it. It’s gone. It’s done. Now you are timeless. I mean that in, time no longer dictates you with your goals and your desires. Who is someone else or a societal norm to tell you that you’re too old to start dancing, or that you’re too young to fall in love, or that you can’t go somewhere or be someone you want to be based on the year you were born.
You are free. You are free to be whoever you want to be at whatever age. You are free to do whatever you want to do (within reason of course!) at whatever age. You are free to go wherever you want to go at whatever age. You are free to love, and feel whatever at whatever age you want to.
Ecclesiastes 3:8 says
To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;
A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;
A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.
God acknowledges that yes, there is a time, but does not let this force of time dictate who we are. God does not want us to be limited by time nor to not fulfill our potential and purposes by time. God created time so that we have something to help us measure many different parts of our lives and our world, not to prevent us from accomplishing things nor to prevent us from living our lives to the fullest. We need to use God’s gift of time to live our Their incredible love and to not waste our one precious life on worrying that we could be limited by age. We are not. Like God, goals and desires and the ability to love are timeless. We need to look at these in such a way that we too strive to be ageless and timeless and do all the great things that we were put on this Earth to do.
Good luck. I know you will do great things. I love you. God loves you.
-T. Conley 2.4.16
This post was inspired by Youtuber, Connor Franta and his video “I’M TOO OLD FOR THIS!!”.